By Joan Obinagwam
In a world dominated by filtered selfies, elaborate makeup tutorials, and endless beauty trends, The Elucidator gathered that a simple tweet from Agba (@jon_d_doe) has sparked a refreshing conversation about authenticity on first dates.
A viral call for simplicity
Posted on December 20, 2025, the tweet advises young women to embrace their natural selves: “As young girl going on a date for the first time with a young man. Go with your natural hair neatly packed. Or do some braids. Keep it clean. You don’t need any makeup. Just keep your skin shiny or with just light powder. You’ll attract him. He will see you deeper. End.”
This straightforward message has resonated with thousands, garnering over 3,000 likes and hundreds of replies, as men and women alike share how natural beauty fosters genuine connections.
Chinyere’s story: Putting the advice into practice
Imagine Chinyere, a 24-year-old marketing assistant from Lagos, preparing for her first date with Kunle, a software engineer she met through mutual friends.
Nervous but excited, Chinyere decides to follow the tweet’s guidance to the letter. She neatly packs her natural hair into a simple updo, opting out of her usual wig collection. A quick braid session? She considers it but sticks with the packed style for its effortless charm. Skipping the full-face makeup routine, she applies just a light powder to keep her skin looking fresh and shiny, highlighting her natural glow from her skincare regimen.
Kunle’s reaction: Drawn to authenticity
As Chinyere arrives at the cozy café in Abuja where they’ve agreed to meet, Kunle spots her immediately. He’s struck not by flashy accessories or bold colors, but by her unassuming elegance—her clean, natural hair framing her face, her skin radiating health without a mask of foundation or contour.
”There was something so real about her,” Kunle would later recall. “No distractions, just her genuine smile and clear eyes. It made me want to know everything about her, beyond the surface.”
Their conversation flows effortlessly over coffee and suya; Kunle finds himself captivated by Chinyere’s confidence and wit, unencumbered by the artifice he often encounters in the dating scene. By the end of the evening, as they share laughs about shared cultural quirks, Kunle is already envisioning a future together. “That night, I thought, ‘This is the kind of woman I’d marry—someone comfortable in her own skin, who doesn’t need to hide behind layers.'”
Real voices agree
Chinyere’s warm reception by Kunle echoes the sentiment in Agba’s tweet: natural beauty allows a man to “see you deeper.” And the comments section under the tweet reinforces this, with many users sharing personal stories and agreements that buttress the point.
For instance, one commenter notes how a woman’s natural hair and clear skin signal good health and self-care, making her more attractive up close, while excessive makeup can come across as insecure. Another emphasizes that most men prefer simplicity: “Men want it this way, but women don’t want to understand. We like you simple but neat.” Women chimed in too, with one sharing her own first-date routine of natural hair, brows, and a focus on perfume, noting it always leaves a strong impression. A female commenter affirmed from experience: “Men tend to appreciate your beauty more when you wear a natural look. Even the ones you think are wild and would prefer heavy makeup often still like it natural.”
Tips to embrace natural beauty on your next date
- Hair: Go with neatly packed natural hair or simple braids. Keep it clean and styled effortlessly.
– Skin: Skip heavy makeup. Use moisturizer for that natural shine, or just a touch of light powder.
- Overall Vibe: Focus on good skincare, a confident smile, and perfume. Dress neatly but comfortably.
Counterpoints
Of course, not all reactions are unanimous—some humorously warn against going too plain, like dressing “like Deeper life” or risking footing the bill yourself. Others question if young men are truly ready for natural looks, claiming they often label such women as “local.” Yet, these counterpoints only highlight the tweet’s core truth: authenticity weeds out superficial suitors. As one user puts it, men love natural hair over artificial wigs, and attracting someone under your true appearance builds a stronger foundation than any glam facade.
A timeless reminder
The Elucidator reports that Agba’s tweet isn’t just dating advice—it’s a call to self-confidence in an era of perfectionism. Stories like Chinyere and Kunle’s remind us that true attraction blooms from being seen as you are. Whether it’s braids, a shiny complexion, or simply showing up clean and real, the deepest connections start with embracing your natural self. As the comments prove, many agree: less is often more when it comes to leaving a lasting impression.